NCPS

Toby Messer, NCPS

Therapist in the UK

Toby is a NCPS therapist in the UK.

11+ years of experience
Focus areas include Stress, Anxiety, Relationship issues
Approaches include Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy

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About Toby

Toby Messer is a solution-focused, analytical psychotherapist who concentrates on identifying the roots of behaviour and emotion while promoting practical change in the present. He blends structured behavioural techniques with deeper, exploratory methods to help clients address current difficulties and build longer lasting coping strategies.

His practice integrates approaches such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), rational emotive behaviour techniques (REBT), and dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) alongside psychodynamic and analytical perspectives. This combination allows him to address patterns that originate in the past while supporting active steps toward improvement in day-to-day life.

Toby holds the NCPS credential, a professional qualification for practising therapists. He aims to create therapy that is both focused and durable, guiding clients through understanding why they feel and behave as they do while working toward meaningful, achievable change.

Areas of expertise

Experience

11+ years

Credentials

NCPS

Languages

English

Focus areas

Stress, AnxietyRelationship issuesGrief Self esteem Depression Addictions LGBTFamily conflicts

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Trauma and abuse Intimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changes Coaching Compassion fatigue ADHD

Approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based Therapy Client-Centered Therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Existential Therapy Jungian Therapy Mindfulness Therapy

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Motivational Interviewing Psychodynamic Therapy Solution-Focused Therapy Trauma-Focused Therapy Systemic Therapy

Also listed for

Abandonment Aging and geriatric issues Antisocial personality Attachment issues BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture Blended family issues

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Body image Cancer Caregiver issues and stress Chronic pain, illness, and disability Codependency Commitment issues Communication problems Control issues Coping with natural or human-caused disaster Dependent personality Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)Dissociation Divorce and separation Domestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issues Fertility issues First responder issues Forgiveness Gender dysphoria Guilt and shame Hoarding Hospice and end-of-life counseling Impulsivity Infidelity Isolation / loneliness Jealousy Life purpose Men's issues Midlife crisis Veteran and Armed Forces Issues Money and financial issues Mood disorders Multicultural concerns Narcissism Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD Panic disorder and panic attacks Paranoia Personality disorders Phobias Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships Postpartum depression Post-traumatic stress Pregnancy and childbirth Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harm Self-love Sex addiction Sexual assault and abuse Sexual dysfunction Sexuality Social anxiety and phobia Trichotillomania Workplace issues Young adult issues

Integrative approaches for online therapy and connection

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, focuses on identifying and changing unhelpful thought patterns and behaviours. It is often used for issues like anxiety, low mood, and unhelpful coping habits by teaching practical skills for managing thoughts and actions.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, emphasizes emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and improving interpersonal effectiveness. It is helpful for people struggling with intense emotions, relationship difficulties, or patterns of acting in ways that cause harm.

Attachment-Based Therapy explores how early relationship experiences shape current ways of relating to others and to oneself. It can be useful for addressing intimacy challenges, abandonment concerns, and recurring relationship patterns.

Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic process. Toby Messer works collaboratively with clients to determine which methods best match their needs, goals, and preferences, and may combine techniques to create a personalised plan.

Online therapy offers practical flexibility - sessions can take place by video call, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different schedules and circumstances. Working with registered professionals in these formats makes therapy more accessible for people who travel, live far from services, or require more frequent check-ins between sessions.

Frequently asked questions

How much experience does Toby Messer have?

Toby Messer has 11 years of experience.

Is Toby Messer a registered therapist?

Yes. He holds the NCPS credential. Specific registration details are not provided.

In which languages does Toby Messer provide therapy?

Toby Messer provides therapy in English.

Where is Toby Messer located?

Toby Messer is located in the United Kingdom.

How can I work with Toby Messer as my therapist?

You can work with Toby Messer through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.

Does Toby Messer work with international clients?

Yes, Toby Messer works with international clients.

How much does therapy with Toby Messer cost?

The cost of therapy can vary depending on factors such as your location and the therapist's availability. Sessions are billed through a subscription that can be cancelled at any time, for any reason. For current details, click the "Start Therapy" button on this page.

How can I get started with therapy?

Getting started with therapy is quick and straightforward. Click the "Start Therapy" button and complete a short questionnaire that helps match you with your therapist. Depending on availability, you can then schedule your first session, which may take place by phone, video call, live chat, or in-app messaging.